Post by shawnturner on Jan 9, 2018 6:39:33 GMT -5
Hi,
I'm a divorced mother with a 5 year old boy. The father lives about a hour away from us and keeps coming in and out of our child's life. I believe it is hurting our boy. I use to drive and meet him half way every other week so my son could spend the weekend with his father. This stopped when I became tired of driving and having to sit in an empty parking lot at night while his father would be an hour late showing up. Often, I would call or text him to confirm he was going to meet us and pick him up and many times he would not return the calls or text messages at all, which left me canceling my plans at the last minute because I would not hear back from him. Instead of my son seeing his father every other weekend it became a situation of, when his father feels like it. Since I told him I wasn't going to drive half way anymore he tells me he doesn't have gas money to drive out to Los Angeles to pick up his son, but he has enough to drive half way if I'll meet him. His father calls once and a while to talk to his son and it often takes him 1 to 2 weeks to return his sons phone calls. At times I will give in and drive my son half way so he can spend the weekend with his father, but the behavior starts right up again with his father being late and he has at times not shown up at all leaving us out there waiting on him. He will call and tell his son he's going to pick him up but then never does and never calls to explain why. So my son is always being hurt and disappointed by his father's behavior and I don't know what to do. I also know his father just doesn't want to make the drive to pick up his son. My son wants to call him but only gets hurt when his father doesn't return calls and then ask why he cant see his father.
What should I do?
Please help.
Thanks!
I didn't find the right solution from the Internet.
References: www.medhelp.org/posts/Parenting/What-to-do-about-a-father-who-is-in-and-out-of-sons-life/show/1084680
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I'm a divorced mother with a 5 year old boy. The father lives about a hour away from us and keeps coming in and out of our child's life. I believe it is hurting our boy. I use to drive and meet him half way every other week so my son could spend the weekend with his father. This stopped when I became tired of driving and having to sit in an empty parking lot at night while his father would be an hour late showing up. Often, I would call or text him to confirm he was going to meet us and pick him up and many times he would not return the calls or text messages at all, which left me canceling my plans at the last minute because I would not hear back from him. Instead of my son seeing his father every other weekend it became a situation of, when his father feels like it. Since I told him I wasn't going to drive half way anymore he tells me he doesn't have gas money to drive out to Los Angeles to pick up his son, but he has enough to drive half way if I'll meet him. His father calls once and a while to talk to his son and it often takes him 1 to 2 weeks to return his sons phone calls. At times I will give in and drive my son half way so he can spend the weekend with his father, but the behavior starts right up again with his father being late and he has at times not shown up at all leaving us out there waiting on him. He will call and tell his son he's going to pick him up but then never does and never calls to explain why. So my son is always being hurt and disappointed by his father's behavior and I don't know what to do. I also know his father just doesn't want to make the drive to pick up his son. My son wants to call him but only gets hurt when his father doesn't return calls and then ask why he cant see his father.
What should I do?
Please help.
Thanks!
I didn't find the right solution from the Internet.
References: www.medhelp.org/posts/Parenting/What-to-do-about-a-father-who-is-in-and-out-of-sons-life/show/1084680
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